A Big Thank You To Child Care Providers Everywhere For All You Do!

Provider Appreciation Day

Child care providers work 8 – 12 hours a day caring for, and educating, our nations children so that parents can go to work and support their families.

Rarely do providers get the recognition and respect, or the compensation, they deserve. Together, we can work to change this, but for today, I just want to tell you all how much I appreciate all your work and commitment to the children and families you serve!

You many never know the full impact you have on the children in your programs, but we do know that the caring, guidance and experiences you provide them today will make them better students, spouses, parents and citizens later in life.

Thank you!

Do You Know Where You Are?

expensesIn my budgeting workshops, I always have providers start out by completing a budget exercise. As I’m passing out the cash flow worksheet and explaining the exercise, I always caution providers to not freak out, because after entering their business and personal income, and deducting business expenses, and ALL personal expenses, it is very likely that they will find themselves with a negative cash flow. If they do this exercise honestly and completely, about half of the class will discover that they are operating at a deficit every month. That’s the bad news. The good news is that now that they know where they are, they can create a plan to get them to where they want to be.

Providers always end up taking this assignment home to finish because only a few know the amounts to plug in. Most don’t really know what they are bringing in month to month, and it usually gets even worse when we get to the expenses. We usually have a pretty good idea what our bills are, but most of us are not accurately estimating what we are spending on miscellaneous items each month. I highly recommend tracking EVERY single penny you spend for at least a week (a month is even better) to see what you really spend on things. This is most effective if all adults in the household (and older children too) do this.

What often messes up our budgets are those expenses that we don’t track, like a cup of coffee, getting our nails done, lunch at the mall, that $15 you gave to your daughter to go the movies, your son’s baseball uniform, Girl Scout cookies, fast food for dinner because you’re exhausted at the end of the day, parking meters….. These little things add up and can totally derail your budget. I’ve had more than one provider come back and tell me this exercise, and the knowledge of what everyone in the household were actually spending, caused some tension in their household. But they usually follow that up by saying that it also created an opportunity for honest communication and goal setting. Once you see what you are actually spending, you will know what you might need to cut back on – AND you will know what is realistic when you create your budget.

You can’t create a budget if you don’t know how much income you are bringing in, how much you are spending, and what you are spending it on. And, to be successful as a family child care business (yes, you ARE a business!), you have to have a budget. Budgeting allows you to project cash flow for this week, this month, and for six months, and a year from now. When you can project cash flow, you can plan for savings, purchases, bill payments, education, and special events. It also makes it possible to plan for expansion or quality improvements.

Positive Provider – Parent Interactions

parent provider and child
When child care providers and parents enjoy respectful, positive relationships based on trust and open communication, they’re able to form a partnership that allows them to together, scaffold the child’s learning and development. This partnership is critical for the child. One way to support the development of positive provider – parent interactions and partnerships is to realize that most parents want what’s best for their children, and are doing the best they know how to do.

It helps to look for the parents’ strengths. The authors of Extending the Dance (Raikes & Edwards, 2009) point out the difference in the ways provider interact with parents when coming from a strength versus deficit perspective: According to the authors, if a provider is seeing parents in terms of strengths, he or she will look at their behavior in terms of many dimensions; look for positive moments of parent-child interactions; listen for and use the exact words of parents when talking about their children; and be able to laugh with parents and enjoy their present moment. However if a provider is focusing more in deficits, he or she will dwell on things that feel disturbing or annoying; want the parents to do things in a certain “right” way; and feel judgmental when speaking with parents.

Providers play an important role in a child’s life, but it is the child’s parent or guardian who is the most important figure in his or her life. The Touchpoints Approach (Brazelton, 1992) guides providers in supporting the parent-child relationship, urging them to value passion (the interests, fears or goals of parents), and to use the behavior of the child as language to help parents understand and appreciate their children’s behaviors. I fully believe all early childhood educators should be trained in the Touchpoints Approach.

Brazelton, T. B. (1992). Touchpoints: The Essential Reference–Your Child’s Emotional and Behavioral Development. Da Capo Lifelong Books.

Raikes, H. H., & Edwards, C. P. (2009). Extending the Dance in Infant & Toddler Caregiving: Enhancing Attachment & Relationships. Baltimore: Paul H. Brookes Publishing Co.